Flirting Tips for Men and Women

You know a flirt when you see one. You can smell him or her from a mile away. The greatest flirts are aware that flirting is not something to be ashamed of. Flirting is an art that is inherent to you as a human being.

If you want to make yourself feel good, or at least be reminded that you are an attractive person, then flirt! If you are not a flirting pro, here are ten tips to help you loosen up and learn the priceless art of flirting. The first five tips are written for men who always end up killing time in Rejectionville, while the last five tips are for women who think flirting is just for men.

1. Buy Only What You Are Buying

Sounds vague?

If you are at a bar, one of the many ways to flirt with a woman is to buy her a drink. Buying her a drink, however, doesn’t make you a god. It doesn’t make her fall in love with you instantly. The drink is all that you are buying, not the woman.

This means, too, that you shouldn’t get her drunk. You surely would prefer to talk to someone who is sober, don’t you? In addition to that, it should be enough to watch her receive the drink you bought for her. Look back a few minutes later to check on her and to show her that you are interested in her. If you see her smile, take it as a positive sign.

2. Focus on the Conversation

If a woman is talking to you, don’t be too confident about getting a date. She is talking to you probably because she thinks you make sense. That said, focus on the conversation. You are committing a big flirting faux pas if you are concentrating on getting a date and not on the woman and the conversation. A woman has a killer instinct when it comes to your intentions.

She will appreciate it more if you exert effort in getting to know her. This will also help you determine whether you actually want to date her, too.

3. Keep Your Hands to Yourself

Don’t be a space invader. Respect the personal space of the woman by not getting too physically close to her: keep your hands to yourself. Some women are comfortable with touchy-feely men, but don’t expect that every woman you talk to meets this criteria.

Yes, touching is a classic form of flirtatious action, but watch for her reactions. If you feel that she isn’t comfortable with it, move back and remove the threat.

4. Be Interesting

It is a fact that people engage in meaningful conversations with people they find interesting. If you want to be an interesting person, be interested.

As a woman talks, listen to her. It isn’t important that you do the talking. What is important is that you care about what she says by looking her in the eye while you listen. This is also a great to say your opinion and talk some more, but make sure that you are listening to her 60% of the time, and talking 40%.

5. Be Yourself

It’s easy to pretend to be someone else when flirting, especially when you’re sure you aren’t looking for a serious relationship, anyway. But there is no point in pretending because girls will find out the truth sooner or later. What makes you think you have the right to flirt if you are not proud of who you are?

Be at your best when approaching a girl. If you’re not sure about yourself, it can help to consult the self-help books your sister has been keeping in your home library.

In this day and age, you are expected to know that flirting is not only a man’s territory. A woman can take the lead, too, sometimes even more successfully than many males do. Here are five flirting tips for women out there who feel that flirting is an unfamiliar territory they can never enter.

6. Clear Signals

Don’t you hate it when men just can’t get what you are saying? Don’t expect them to understand all the sarcastic things you say. If you didn’t already know that men are never good at interpreting the signals you give them, you may be one of the women who always fails at flirting with the male species.

The trick to flirting men, in this case, is to give them clear signals. Some men may interpret your flirting signal for a “Hi, I am friendly,” while others may see it as a sexual sign. Now it is obvious where the importance of giving clear signals comes in.

7. Get Noticed

If you are not confident enough about your beauty to be noticed, how can you expect a guy to approach you? It is not yet the end of the world. Carry or wear something that attracts other people’s attention. You can wear a bright yellow peep-toe pumps to contrast your dark-colored top. You can dye your hair red or neon green. Just have something noticeable on you and you will get as many glances from men as possible.

8. This Time, You Don’t Need Friends

Did you know that one of the things that makes it hard for men to approach you is because you are surrounded by friends? Approaching you is a challenge. Men take the risk of getting rejected once they talk to you. Some won’t even try talking to you when it means not only getting rejected, but being rejected in front of your friends.

If guys see you alone or with only one or two others, you look more approachable in their eyes.

9. “The” Voice

You can never underestimate the power of your voice. Your voice is one of the many assets you can use to flirt with a guy. Stop sounding like you are in the third grade or like a love-sick 16-year old.

If you allow your voice to sound like a dental drill, say goodbye to flirting.

Always check how you sound. Wash the opposite sex in waves of sexy sounds. Drown guys in a mature, flirtatious voice.

10. The First Move

Try asking a few guys about how they feel when a woman makes the first move and you will learn that they love being approached by a woman. If you want equality, then do your share of asking. Not only will this make you look more confident and friendly, it will also help you understand the kind of challenges men go through every time they approach a woman like you.

Follow these simple tips and stop worrying about what other people will say about you. These judgmental people do not have a clue that flirting, in fact, boosts your level of happiness.